Catch me a catch!

Having been separated for a year and divorced for nine months, it would now appear that the acceptable waiting period (whatever invisible length of time that happened to be) for shoving single men in my face has come to an official end … or maybe it is the holiday spirit that has those close to me freely pointing out who is and who isn’t available as a potential mate.

“Well, somebody has to arrange the matches; young people can't decide these things themselves.” ~Fiddler on the Roof, musical

First, there is my cousin and her family who have stumbled across a fellow who is not only single, but also a family law attorney. Free legal advice and a date! What more could I want, right? I jest, but he has been mentioned more than once in the last week or two and my cousin even called to give me his number. Nice.

“People go to casinos for the same reason they go on blind dates - hoping to hit the jackpot. But mostly, you just wind up broke or alone in a bar.” ~Sarah Jessica Parker, Sex and the City

Sunday evening while attending a Christmas caroling service at my parent’s church it was mentioned to me (by my mother) that two different individuals present were single. One man happens to be the youth pastor and a bona fide hottie … he is twenty-five. I am not completely opposed to an eight year age gap but, having practically raised my ex-husband, I would prefer for that much of a difference in ages to swing the other direction. The other individual brought to my attention works on a cruise ship. Talk about long distance. Whew! And … he’s surrounded by gorgeous people day-in and day-out. I think I would have to be emotionally suicidal to even ponder that one.

There is another individual, again seven to eight years younger, which has been mentioned from time to time. (This is all the detail I dare give in such a public venue.) What is the deal with the younger men? Are we forgetting that I have a child on the verge of being a teenager? Seriously, that would be a rude awakening to any man, let alone one who has never been married and has no children. Again, I have nothing against a younger man although anything more than two or three years is really pushing the issue.

“It's such a happiness when good people get together—and they always do.” ~Jane Austen, Emma

More than anything … I am curious about this invisible waiting period that seems to have expired sometime around December 1st. Apparently, everyone else simultaneously decided that on or shortly after that day it would be acceptable to start trying to play matchmaker with the divorcee.

I have two words for you people: “Good Luck!”

You push – I will push back. It is in my nature.

“Matchmaker, Matchmaker,
Make me a match,
Find me a find,
Catch me a catch,
Night after night in the dark I'm alone
So find me match,
Of my own.”

~Fiddler on the Roof, musical


  1. Funny, I never intended to marry again after the first disaster. Found someone too good to pass up. Before the divorce was final, still just chatting with him, everyone around us asking when we were getting married. Daunting and irritating.

    Married is safe and stable, in the public mind, the inevitable end to all stories. The goal, the proof of social acceptance, even today. Hogwash, of course. Had I not met my D, I would never have tried the slopes of marriage again. And would have found a different kind of happy.

    Good luck silencing your Yentas. Rolled up newspaper on the nose might do it, done long and often enough.

  2. Yes ... well, family should know me well enough to know that I will bite if pushed to far. We shall see.

  3. Topol, was that him, i am forgetting.

    Beth, i am sorry, took me a while to visit you, my blog was in a cold storage.

    one year ? any chance of your husband coming back ? He must be regretting. Do you have your doors open for him ? Do you have the will to forgive ? Does he come to see your teen age child ?
    Do you want to get married to show him that you are in love or some one can love you ?

    i am such a wrong person to discuss this, i am discussing this because you have written about it.
    i appreciate your honesty. i am qualified to keep my mouth shut as i am 60 and never married. i was afraid of getting married because i look like a gorilla and i had no will to make money. But i have patched up a few couples in my life.
    The only thing i can say is that your teenage child should be willing to accept some one new.

    fonts are too small in your post Beth, i am half blind.
    thank you Beth
    hope you had a wonderful Christmas
    i wish you all the peace of mind in the world

  4. Wow Rauf ... questions galore. No, there is no hope for him. I left & it was a good thing. Yes, he sees the kids as we live in the same town.

    Discuss away - I don't mind.

    Apologies about the font size, but they will likely stay as small as they are. You can always increase your browser fonts! :o) Just a suggestion.

    Merry Christmas to you as well.


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